Knowledge Is Indeed Power!

I was one among five Trinidadians having a conversation on Wednesday. One of the topics (and I admit I raised it) was the transgender community in general and Ms. Jenner in particular. I posed the question as I wanted to get the “temperature” of the opinions of a Trini living in Trinidad with regard to this very very hot-button topic. Here is what stood out for me – we are a people that demand (and yes, I guess deserve) the right to full-disclosure. We insist that those among and around us let us know absofuckinglutely everything about them that is note-worthy – their ages, their relationship status, their race, their political and religious views, their professional achievements and goals, their level of education, their sexual proclivities and now, what is under their pants or skirts. Yes, mainly we demand this information under the guise of complete transparency; but I am finding that in fact our predominant motive is judgment. We insist on information that is dressed-up as the stuff of all things casual and conversational, but that is then used to discriminate and snub. Someone (a woman) rejected the notion of Ms. Jenner (or, anyone like her) being able to use the same gender-identified bathroom as she. I asked a question: “where would you like her to go to relieve herself?” But the thought that continues to stay with me since that moment is this: if, unlike Ms. Jenner I never presented as any other gender than the one you all now are accustomed to – if, as I do, I always got up and put on dresses, heels and make-up and carried a purse, if, since the beginning of being noticed I always spoke in a cadence that one associated with being female and walked with that decidedly provocative sway from my pelvis area, if my career choices always leaned toward those of a woman (whatever the hell that means!), if I allowed my emotional outbursts to repetitively buttress everyone’s opinion of those of the feminine persuasion and on and on and on, then you would never dare to question my pushing on and walking into a bathroom that requires I squat to pee, right? You would never think to ask or suppose that I may have a penis under these dresses yall so admire!

And we wonder why people are sometimes so very secretive…

2 responses to Knowledge Is Indeed Power!

  1. cheryl

    Fury, my love! it’s been a while since I’ve responded to your posts and I’ve missed you!

    I come from a unusual family in the fact that back in the 60’s, my cousin Curtis was what we called “flaming” back then. He was out and he was proud. My dad hated gay people – he was a “man’s man”. However, Curtis was his sister’s son and we ALL loved, accepted and protected him. Curtis went on to become a semi-famous hairdresser whose work was in Ebony magazine before he died of AIDS. I find it very hard to believe that in 2015 – FIFTY years later – we are still having conversations about the LGBT society and that we’re still fighting for their and black rights/equality – it just boggles my mind! I was lucky that I was raised with tolerance & love.

    As for you, if you told me you were really transgender, my response would be: “Lessons please”!! You rock womanhood – transgender or not – and I want lessons! LOL!

    People need to live and let live. If you’re not paying my rent, stay outta my kitchen!

    Love you!

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    • Let's AdDress This... – Author

      Cheryl my darling, thank you for taking the time to respond (and, your voice, thoughts have been noted and missed; welcome back!).

      Very well said; and all I wish for is more human beings like your father – entitled to their opinions, but respectful of others’ right to live their lives, their truth.

      Now me… you are hysterically funny! Thank you for the compliment. Given the state of this world however, I admit to being so relieved that what is under my dress reflects (non-surgically) my behavior, feeling and physical appearance; I am unsure I would be as brave as the “Caitlyns” in this world.

      So much I appreciate your insights and bravery in responding.

      Love you back!



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